Marriage license? Wtf?
Comments (0) Let’s say you want to get married. If you live in US, you need to pay the state to get a marriage license. Now this seemed odd to me at first. Why on Earth would you need a license to marry someone you love? Shouldn’t you just have someone perform a ceremony and make an official document that yes the two of you are married and all is well with the world? But then again, why do you need someone to perform a ceremony and write some official document about your relationship? Is love less valuable if it’s not written on some paper? What does marriage mean anyway? What does it have to do with love?
The truth is marriage has nothing to do with love. It has nothing to do with the relationship you have with another person. Instead, marriage is a way of population control by governments and other organizations.
While for most women wedding is all about the pretty dress, the big party, the cake, the decorations, the invitations, the rings, etc., in reality wedding is about giving the government the right to mess with your family life. You have to ask the government for permission to marry. By doing so, you give up control of your relationship to the government. At that point the government has the right to refuse to give you a marriage license. It can require you to do a blood test. It has opened the doors to any other regulation of your marriage that could be signed into law in the future. No wonder people get less satisfied with their relationship after they marry. It has been shown time and again how loss of autonomy leads to loss of happiness and life satisfaction.
So why would one marry then? Why do gays wish to marry so much? Well, there are some benefits to marriage, but they are all derived from organizations. For example, when you’re married, you get some tax relief. You also get hospital visitation privileges and in case of death of your spouse are eligible for compensation from social security. You may be able to obtain citizenship in another country. You can get health insurance through your spouse at a reduced cost.
All of that though has nothing to do with how well you get along with your significant other. It has nothing to do with your feelings for each other or other people. It has nothing to do with your love and your relationship.
Marriage is in its true nature a legally binding contract which externally regulates a relationship between two adults and their relationships with other organizations.
There is nothing romantic about marriage. You can put as many flowers, cakes, candles, rings to cover it up and make it appear lovely, but you will never be able to run away from its true cold purpose. Let’s face it: if you really love someone and want to live with them, you can do it perfectly fine without having that piece of paper. It will not be any less true or valuable or secure for the two of you.
